When I look back in my life, I can see two major flaws in myself that had slowed my progress.  The inability to just say no and the inclination to avoidsituations that  came into my life that I deemed uncomfortable.

Don’t miss interpret what I’ve just said, I also believe that the path that I have followed is the path that I must travel to achieve enormous success in my life.

I didn’t develop the the power or mental ability to just say no earlier in my life and the rationalitythat I should have embraced my uncomfortable feelings and realized that they are a part of the path to success and should not avoided.  If I had acquired that knowledge earlier in life, I would now be much further ahead inside my life plan.  

I’m not educated enough to give you the psychological reasons why I was lacking these two characteristics, but I can give you a couple of reasons or examples of how I was affected.

The main reason I didn’t just say no more often, was because I was afraid that I was going to miss out on something significant.  I would convince myself that this might be my big break in life and that I didn’t want to miss this opportunity.

As an example I had been asked to join multi-level marketing businesses on several occasions.  Each time I had said yes, paid my membership dues, set the business up and then did absolutely zip with it.  Someone else would ask me six months afterwards to join another programme and I would.  Same results.  

This inability to just say no was not limited to just my business endeavors, in fact it had plagued most areas of my life.

It was eternally easier and more comfortable for me to say yes then to just say no.  In my past I had the tendency to stay away from uncomfortable situations.  Although, I never said no to physical confrontations or participating in events like bungee jumping and parachuting.   I also spent 3 years in the infantry. Again, it was easier to say yes then to just say no and risk the possibility of putting myself in a position of embarrassment or feeling uncomfortable because I said no.  Even if this meant possible physical injury to myself.  

If I could avoid the possible uncomfortable feelings by ignoring or avoiding a potential uncomfortable situation I would.  At that time I would avoid it or do it, I would never just say no.

 I can tell you that I have wasted a lot of time, money and energy on situations in my life that, if I would have only learned to just say no, I would be so much further along in my life plan.

In the past I have also done myself an injustice by not having allowed myself to be uncomfortable more often.  By avoiding uncomfortable situations and taking the path of least resistance (in my mind), I had in truth and unhappily taken the path away from my goals, dreams and achievements .

Over the years I have worked on my character flaws listening and reading material from people like Bob Proctor  from the book and the movie “The Secret” ,and following the advice in the next two paragraphs.

Acquire the knowledge and the ability to set your goals and  the courage to “Just Say No” to events and situations that lead you away from achieving those goals.
 
Embrace uncomfortable feelings for this means that you are on the path to success.

Author, Hans Kristian Anderson is an internet marketing online business owner.